Monday, November 8, 2010

Must Nice Guys Always Finish Last?

Could he be my Prince Charming?
So I’m going on a date with this guy…why? Honestly, I’m not quite sure. I’m not quite sure why I danced with him at the club. I’m not quite sure why I gave him my number. I’m not quite sure why I agreed to go on a date. So I’m not quite sure how I got to this point with this man whom I didn’t even want to dance with, let alone go on a date with—except for the fact that he asked. That has to count for something, right? He asked to dance with me. He asked for my number. He asked if I would join him for dinner. So here we are: a classic case of “nice guys finish last.” This man is super nice and has done all the right things; yet I’m not looking forward to this date because I’m not interested, attracted, or amused—I’m just not that into him. On the other hand, I must ask myself why I’m not into him? Besides the obvious—I don’t know him. I don’t know him; therefore, I will at least be fair to him and get to know him. Then I’ll decide if I’m not into him based on who he is as opposed to who he seems to be or what he looks like. 

That gets me thinking:  why does “nice guy” automatically mean "unattractive guy"? Can’t attractive men be nice too? I think they want to be, but girls don’t give them a change. Attractive men are spoiled. They are spoiled because we girls don’t allow them to pursue us. We are so anxious to get a man that we hop on the first attractive one that isn’t in jail (at least not at the time), doesn’t have babies (at least not multiple) and isn’t married (at least not technically). So while the “attractive” are getting pursued, the “unattractive” play the nice-guy card (whether they are really that way or not) in an attempt to evoke pity from the female who wasn’t quick enough to get the attractive guy.

So here I am:  the slow girl with the nice guy…let the games begin!

*Image created by Penny Matthews.

1 comment:

  1. Great post. Is "nice" really a code for "passive"? Those guys will definitely get left behind. And any guy who thinks Pity is a great way to meet girls is bound to end up with a Mom, not a lover.