Tuesday, November 16, 2010

The "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" Dating Game

Sometimes the dating world can be so complicated. Complicated because you have two people who are trying desperately to get to know each other while at the same time trying desperately to mask their own flaws. Each person is truly interested in the other, while at the same time hoping the other doesn’t get too interested in knowing about their past situations. So then there’s this game that’s played between the two of them called “don’t ask, don’t tell.” You don’t ask me about my past relationships, and I won’t tell you. You don’t ask me about my crazy temper, and I don’t tell you. You don’t ask me about my baby, and I don’t tell you. I will only tell you if you ask me in direct question form, and only if you look me dead eyes, and only if you have a serious tone. People will use any excuse not to answer a question and any anecdote to divert your attention.


Be open with me! If we are on the topic of past relationships, and you happen to have been married—you may want to mention that. If we are talking about babies and how much fun they are, and you happen to have one, or two, or three of them—now’s a good time to bring that up. If we are discussing how I hate cheaters, and you’ve cheated on every girl you’ve been with—do me a favor and just walk away now. A person who hides and covers things up in order for me not to find the skeletons in their closet is a person I don’t want to waste my time on. All of a sudden—that makes things much simpler!

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