Are they really incapable or is it a choice?
As women, we experience multiple situations where we’ve asked the man, our man, to do something and even though they’ve agreed to do it, they wait a long time to get it done, don’t do it all the way, or totally forget to do it altogether. So are they really incapable of doing what you’ve asked them to do in a timely manner or is it that they don’t choose to do it until they feel like it?
I’m starting to think it’s a choice…
I’ve asked my boyfriend on multiple occasions to please check his work calendar and find a weekend that he has off so we can plan a vacation together. To me, that seems like an easy thing to do. But for some reason he has yet to do it.
Surely, he’s capable of checking his calendar and seeing when he will be off, so by process of elimination I must conclude that he chooses not to do it.
I don’t think he makes the choice to not do something maliciously or even intentionally. I believe he chooses not to view it as a priority and, consequently, forgets to do it.
Maybe that’s it. Most men view half the things women request of them as a low priority...
Take out the garbage?...low priority
Mail something for me?...low priority
Call me at a certain time…low priority
Call the insurance people?...low priority
Feed the kids…low priority
Take the dog out…low priority
Pay the bills…low priority
Or maybe it’s the fact that we “the woman” have requested it that they view it as low priority. So if they’ve thought of it themselves, all of a sudden, it’s a brilliant idea that needs to be handled immediately.
So I’m shifting my energy away from getting him to do something that I’ve requested and toward getting him to come up with the idea himself…you know, let him be the man! ;)