But sometimes that glance is enough to divert my thoughts. I begin to lose focus of the end goal and start thinking about other possibilities. I don’t actually want to pursue those other possibilities; I just like to think about them. They are harmless thoughts…just enough to make sure that my end goal is definitely what I want.
It almost enables me to appreciate the end goal a bit more. When I’m fully aware of the other men that are out there, I can better affirm that the one I have is the right one for me. It lets me know that my boyfriend is not just great because he’s the only one out there and I love him, but he’s great because he’s better for me than anyone else that is out there.
But I must admit, sometimes it takes me a moment to realize that these distractions aren’t better than the end goal. In the moment, sometimes I forget that my boyfriend is really good for me, and I allow myself to get distracted by men who are not-so-good for me. But these distractions are so tricky—they disguise themselves to be more than what they are. So once they take off their mask, you find that they are not who you thought.
What I keep learning is that my boyfriend—in all his flaws—is better for me than all the distractions (even the cute ones). So while it’s okay to look, it’s definitely not worth while touching!