Putting the Spark Back Into Your Relationship

What’s the key to keeping the spark in a relationship? When the honeymoon phase is over, how do you ensure the passion remains?

When relationships transform from leisure into work, a shift occurs within the dynamics of the couple’s interactions where they start to become complacent and bored. They are not turned on as easily as before—they fall into the “danger zone” called status quo.

When you are in the “danger zone,” the way your man touches you or tries to tickle you, is annoying instead of cute. When you’re in the “danger zone,” the random, erratic way your man breathes when he sleeps is irritating instead of endearing. When you are in the “danger zone,” the cute little things you used to do to get your man’s attention just seem like overkill now.

The “danger zone” is ridden with eroding relationships, dissatisfied couples and jaded individuals. The “danger zone” is a place of forced acceptance of your reality.

When I come in contact with couples in the dreaded zone, I am saddened. I am saddened because here are two individuals who were once in love, but have let life get in the way of like. They have fallen into the trap of thinking lack of affection, lack of communication, lack of passion, lack of spontaneity and lack of intimacy are just the natural evolutions of relationships. But, really, those things are present in a relationship that has been taken for granted. When couples begin to assume the other will always be around or assume they don’t have to do anything extra anymore since they are married, or assume that the passion doesn’t need to be there as long as the love is there; that’s when they may begin assuming the title of “ex.” 

Couples need to start working toward a healthy relationship to enhance the love instead of letting an unhealthy relationship erode the love. 

Reflections of You

It’s days like this that I want to be near you. It’s days like this that I want to be close to you, in your arms, holding you close. It’s days like this that I can hardly bear our current situation and wish we lived near each other. Days like this…

Days like today—cold, rainy, dreary, quiet—are days that you want to cuddle up to the one you love; cuddled up, under a blank, the only sounds being the pitter patters of your heartbeats and of the rain hitting the ground.

Days like this make you start thinking, wondering about the world. Something about the outside world being grayed out makes you become very introspective. Our world has so many distractions, so many stimuli that the senses are attracted to; but when those outside distractions are masked by rainfall and gray skies, it allows the mind to turn inward. 

So today—I’m deep in thought. I'm thinking about my life and what makes me the happiest. I’m thinking about love and what makes it work. I’m thinking about loss and what makes people recover. 

I’m thinking about my boyfriend and how he and I can love fully and completely with no boundaries or limitations. Days like today make me want to live my “happily ever after” with him right now. 

I look outside and it looks as if the earth is mourning. The sky is gray, the trees are drooping, the ground is soggy, the birds are hiding. The way the raindrops hit the window and run down the glass show me that the world is also longing for something. Days like today make me feel sorrowful.

I look outside; no children are playing, no people are walking, barely any cars on the road. There are no birds dancing in the sky, no insects scooting along the ground, no butterflies fluttering in the air. Days like today make me feel lonely.

It’s days like today that I want to be near the man I love, so he can calm my pensive mind, dry my weeping eyes, and console my lonely heart. 

Days like today…make me want you!