In honor of my grandfather and his recent passing...I am going to re-post a blog entry that was inspired by him from August of 2011:
Simply put, my grandfather’s perspective on relationships is, “When you see something you want, you better get it before it’s gone!”
That’s what my grandfather was thinking when he proposed to my grandmother 60 years ago at the age of 21 (she was 19). They had both grown up on farms in the small city of Unadilla, Georgia. They had known of each other’s families growing up and started dating once they were adults. After dating for just a few months, my grandfather proposed. He knew what he wanted.
Sixty years later, he’s sitting beside his 26-year-old granddaughter who has been dating the same guy on and off for 5 years, and he asks me, “So why aren’t you married yet?”
I chuckle because that’s a very loaded question. It catches me off guard because we hadn’t been talking about relationships or anything like that. I pause and I respond simply, “Because no one has asked me.”
Apparently, that was an insufficient response because he nodded his head and said, “Well, the next time I see him, I’m going to ask him what is taking so long.”
I smiled to myself. I love the fact that my grandfather is going to ask the magic question that I’ve been wanting to ask. My 82-year-old grandfather is going to ask my 24-year-old boyfriend, why it’s taking him so long to propose to a young woman he’s been dating for some time now!
I love the picture that the image paints in my mind and I’m also eager to hear how my boyfriend responds. My boyfriend is of the mindset that the situation has to be “right” before he proposes. But my grandfather would say that if you spend time waiting for a “right” time, you might lose out on a “right” woman.
My grandfather saw in my grandmother the qualities that he wanted in a wife and 60 years later they are still together…he just wants the same thing for his granddaughter; because what he would also say (in his infinite wisdom) is that if a man is making you wait too long, you need to move on!