How far are you supposed to go for your significant other? How much are you supposed to do? Do you keep giving and giving and giving until you have no more to give or do you cut off the “donations” before you’ve reached your breaking point?
Is there ever a time when you just stop giving to the relationship? Are you allowed to give tough love to a relationship versus continuing to nurture it?
I’ve been giving a lot to my relationship…a lot of love, a lot of attention, a lot of time, a lot of money, and a lot of effort. I’ve been giving all of me and all of my emotions to this relationship. And, frankly, I’m tired. I’m not tired in terms of wanting to escape, but tired in terms of wanting and needing things to change. I just don’t know how long I can continue to give and not get much in return. I want to keep giving—in fact, my love won’t let me stop giving. But I’m not sure how long my mind and my energy can last. The continuous donations are taking a toll on my health.
It’s not that I haven’t gotten anything from the relationship, but recently I’ve been giving a lot more. And I’m not sure if I’m “supposed” to keep giving or if I should enable him to take care of things himself. As the man, isn’t he supposed to take care of things and handle his own issues? I just don’t know how to balance “supporting your mate” with “letting a man be a man.”
Every time I try to give tough love, the “soft love” in me wants to immediately console him or work to rectify a situation or problem he may be having.
Is my giving a lot to this relationship my duty as a girlfriend or my way of enabling him?
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