Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Forgive, Forget and Move On?

It’s funny how relationships have ups and downs, highs and lows and yet they usually seem to balance themselves back out. It doesn’t always happen overnight; it might take some planning, some working, some talking, and some fighting; but eventually the world makes sense again. 

Today, all is right with the world. Today, there is harmony again. Today, we are back to neutral. Today, everything is OK.

Yesterday, we could have been screaming, fighting, yelling, arguing—but that was yesterday. I don’t need to worry about the problems of yesterday because they have been resolved today. The relationship has balanced itself back out and is now back to neutral.

But should that be the case? Should couples really negate everything that happened in the past because today is better? Should we really act like what happened yesterday didn’t matter because we don’t want to be reminded of it today?

Or do we need that reminder? Do we need to take note of the issues of yesterday so they aren’t repeated today and tomorrow? 

The issues my boyfriend and I had yesterday have been resolved in terms of neither one of us being angry anymore, but they have not been solved in terms of enabling the issue to not come up again. But by remembering the issues of yesterday, we may work to solve them tomorrow.

So I think that’s the key.  Don’t let your past issues distract you from moving forward, but at the same time, don’t let them disappear momentarily only to resurface as a bigger issue in the future. 

Relationships do have a way of balancing themselves out, but I’d rather just have a steady, “balanced” relationship versus trying to re-balance it every day.

Today, the world makes sense—I’m going to try to keep it that way!

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